Going back to school after having kids? You must really want that job!
Yes, it indicates a lot of commitment and determination from your part but, it also means that you have an extra workload besides taking care of the household.
Some of you reading this article may be unemployed at the moment or are simply looking for better ways to manage life. You’re also welcome here.
If you’re a single parent going back to school to finish your degree, here are some tactics for a successful outcome.
1. Focus on One Thing at a Time
Focus is the keyword. The golden rule is to focus on one thing at a time. Whether it’s work or studies.
Yes, we often procrastinate. Our advice though is to try and reduce it as much as possible. Spend adequate time with your children and family.
Try shutting off social media apps during a heavy schedule. The constant depiction of other people’s so-called perfect lives can be misleading and frustrating. Shut off this toxicity and focus on the more important things.
2. Find a Good Childcare Centre
This is the reality. You can’t handle it all. There will be days when you’ll have a disagreement with your kids and they’ll stay out to avoid you. Also, there will be days when you’d rather stay home than look at anybody else at work.
In order to find some time for stress relief and self-care, find a good childcare center in your locality. Buy your kids toys appropriate for their age to keep them busy and entertained.
With no kids around, you can clean the house and the yard. Even, plant some new trees if you want.
3. Get a Family Calendar
With so much going on, it’s hard to keep up with things. Kids have their own schedule, and you have your own.
It all gets easy to figure out when you get a family calendar to jot down everybody’s schedule.
When you have heaps of things to do over the week, it’s better to be organized than sorry. By getting a family calendar, you can also teach your kids to be disciplined and proactive.
When your kids are aware of your study schedule, they won’t bother you with silly things. You’ll also find a quiet time to focus on your assignments and homework.
4. Get Involved on Campus
Getting involved in campus activities when you have a 9 to 5 job and a household to manage seems like a distant dream. Well, you don’t necessarily have to join clubs and participate in club activities.
All you have to do is know the right information. Befriend people who know a lot about the institution you’re in. They’ll inform you with all the necessary deets from around the campus.
Having the right assignment partner is crucial. If your partner’s not good, your life will be super miserable. So pick smart and diligent people, who’ll assist you and not torture you.
5. Execute Good Study Habits
Look back at the greats in your class and analyze their study techniques. Or just research on good study habits.
Learn some new tips as well, such as sleeping for at least 8 hours, working out before studying, eating nutritious food, taking notes in class and so on.
You may not become a topper overnight, but your grades will surely improve next time. So work hard!
6. Understand Your Limits
Being a single working parent going back to school has a lot of limitations. When you’re biting more than you can chew, what do you do?
Simple. You let go of some baggage. You don’t have to kill yourself for a promotion or a fancy job. Trust me, within two months of employment, you’ll hate it.
An exhausted, frustrated individual doesn’t become a loving, responsible parent. Do you really want to teach your kids self-resentment and pessimism? No.
Rather than having four responsibilities – job, study, children and yourself, get three! Or, switch to a part-time job. Or, enroll in a part-time or online course.
Unless you have enough time in your schedule to invest in studies, don’t do it. Don’t do it because others are doing it. Don’t do it because someone said so.
Before you make a big decision like that, get a clear picture of where you stand, what your abilities and limitations are. Don’t compromise your kids and yourself.
However, if you have analyzed the situation, and you’re good to go with another degree in your pocket, go ahead! Organize your time, coincide with the kids’ schedules, and get that brain working.
No matter what decision you make, don’t hurt yourself in the process. You made the decision to improve your current situation, not to make it worse.